1. Let the DJ do their job. The more you give them as "must play" or "do not play", the more you can hinder the success of your own dance floor.  Some of your favorite bands may rock ... they may not be too "danceable".  Let your DJ be the judge based on their experience at weddings. 


2. Who's the DJ?  Give the DJ a few songs you like, not your whole iPod playlist.  Most weddings will have guests aging from their 20's to 70's. A Professional Wedding DJ knows what works for all generations, trust them.

3. Dance, Dance Dance. The more a Bride & Groom are on the dance floor, the more your guests will be on the dance floor.  You set the example for the day.

4. Don't "major in minor things". Don't put added pressure on yourself or your DJ by wanting to enter the room at an exact part of the song or at an exact lyric.  People are WATCHING you, not listening at those times.

6. Don't give your guests too many options. If you have a DJ in one room, a bar in another, a photo booth down the hall, etc ... don't be surprised if your dance floor is not full.  Giving your guests other options, gives more reason why your dance floor won't be as packed as you want.

7. Leave it to the Professionals. Up until now, how many weddings have you planned?  Exactly!  Run all your ideas off your DJ or your Day-of Wedding Coordinator.  The smoother your wedding flows, the more successful it will be.  Trust the Professionals.


1. Give your DJ 25+ songs
2. Tell your DJ what song to play and when
3. Pick obscure music
4. Make everything a "must play"
5. Make everything a "do not play"
6. Send your bridesmaids to the DJ advising "the bride wants to hear this next"
7. If the bride isn't on the dance floor, the guests won't be on the dance floor

Cape Tunes "Homework": If your wedding DJ is already reserved, here's some homework we ask Brides & Grooms to complete at least four weeks before their wedding day:

MUSIC CHECKLIST - This is so you can let us know what you like / don't like, etc.  


NAMES CHECKLIST - This is so we can have the names of your wedding party before the big day and not spend vital time on your big day.


Home-based / tented weddings
From a DJs standpoint and from seeing it dozens of time every season … here are the things that home-based weddings commonly forget …


  1. Permits – check with Town Hall if there are any permits needed (for beach wedding, entertainment, etc)

  2. Noise Ordinance – check with Town Hall what the noise ordinance is. All it takes is one neighbor and your big day could end quickly.

  3. Power – Your DJ should be on their own circuit. Even a coffee maker on the same circuit can blow a fuse. Little lights around your tent draw more power as the night goes on. If your DJ is on the same fuse, when the dancing kicks in, everything turns off.

  4. Tables – It’s very common to forget enough tables … for your DJ, seating cards, gifts, cake, etc

  5. Rest Rooms – No one wants a parade through their house, always a better idea to rent portable rest rooms. Some are nicer that people’s houses!

  6. Parking – Check with Town Hall about parking restrictions, consider shuttling guests in, consider hiring a valet service.

  7. What we require for home-based weddings:

    1. Six foot table (covered or skirted to hide wires)

    2. To be within six feet of a power source

    3. To be under cover to protect equipment from sun, heat and/or rain

    4. If the weather is expected to drop below 60 degrees, the tent needs to have sides and/or a heater. Condensation can ruin equipment.

After your wedding ... when you come back to reality ...

  • Remember your vows ... take the "for better or worse" part seriously ... 

  • When it's "worse" ... be there for each other ... make it work ... it will be worth it


Don't get "Bride Brain"! 


What is "Bride Brain"? According to Urban Dictionary ...  Bride Brain is a less invasive, but more expensive version of a frontal lobotomy. Experienced by most brides, as they enter a catatonic state which renders them incapable of sustaining any thought or conversation that does not involve cake, caterers, flowers, wedding dress designers, Chinese wedding dress knockoff designers, updo's, hair pieces, color schemes, wedding themes, and personalized M&M's.

Bride Brain symptoms include, but are not limited to, driving erratically because they can't stop staring at their shiny diamond ring; being amused by the resentment of all their single girlfriends, rewinding songs several hundred times while imagining themselves walking down the aisle, and starvation induced bitchiness which is generally followed by late night binging at a Dairy Queen. (Note that this can only occur outside of the bride's native geographic area, where they can't possibly run into anyone they know).

Symptoms are ordinarily well controlled with Valium, alcohol and endless hours of watching YouTube "first dance" videos.